In part 4 of my series for becoming great I would like to share my tips for you on how to get noticed, that does not mean getting noticed by everyone, but getting noticed and appreciated by those who matter. Whether those people be, our family (kids), bosses, work colleagues or customers.
Engage your ears, not your mouth.
In any situation you find yourself in whether it be at home, at work or on the sports field. Try and be in the moment ‘Be Here Now’ take in the conversations, arguments and ideas of those around you. Do not let other activities distract your focus on the topic, or situation at hand. If you have been asked to contribute thoughts, provide some comment initially but use questions to dig deeper into what those around you are thinking. Speak less and ask questions more.
By talking less and listening more, often the ‘more impact’ you will have when you do speak. People will start to listen to your ideas more. However, be smart, find out all the facts, and become the person known for wanting to explore all the options and details. You do not have to be the smartest person in the room, but you can be the most impactful, simply by being the better listener.
Timing is everything. Wait, until all the thoughts, arguments and ideas are in the room, then speak for the first time from a different viewpoint.
Do your Research
Simple, but the more you prepare the better equipped you will be to make meaningful contributions when you need to. When you share your ideas, back it up with fact, and if possible great stats or data. Don’t just come up with a view, or you maybe setting yourself up for a hiding.
Explore different views
Smart people around the world understand that a diverse approach is the most effective and most likely to come up with more ideas and different solutions. Be the person who seeks out different views from different cultures, people with differing stances, approaches. Try and think outside the box by exploring more. If you are an employer hire different people from different cultures, ages and backgrounds and build a business that is based on quality information from different sources. Find out how ‘it’ impacts everyone not just what it means for someone like you.
If you do not have different views in a meeting, then be the one to suggest seeking out those views, take charge of gathering the information and you will become known as the person who finds the best results.
People only hear it the first time; after that, it’s diluted and they switch off and forget the point you made. You may think you are making a point but your silence will be more powerful after you have shared your thought …
Have your journal and pen with you at all times, take notes and arm yourself with the information being shared in the room. You will be forced to listen more as you write down what others are saying and your notes will provide you with ammunition when it comes time to think, analyse then speak.
Tone and volume
Don’t yell, don’t whisper, don’t screech. The greatest speakers in the world all take lessons so don’t be afraid to follow in their footsteps.
Speak from your heart not your head
Be careful with this, make sure before you speak from your heart that your head is full of different ideas and facts. Only then are you ready to give a passionate viewpoint.
You don’t have to have the last word
In fact if you have said what you think (for now) then leave it there, let others argue, you end as you begun – the best listener in the room.