Tag: success

The power of Intention

Now we are a well into the New Year I wonder how many people have made ‘resolutions’ to achieve something but have already broken their goal?

This highlight the danger of resolutions as often people associate a resolution as an absolute must do and always do. Yes, this is setting the bar high and for a few, they may well succeed.  However, for many, they will get disheartened from not keeping to their resolution and give up on their goal.

If you instead start the year (or any personal project) with what you intend to do you give yourself the option of picking up and starting again if something rocks the boat and you miss a day or so of whatever your intention was.

Scenario

If I resolve to walk every day of the year and stick to a keto diet, I do not provide for any hiccups along the way.  If after three days I have chaffing (ouch) and my legs are too sore to walk the next day, in fact, I will do more damage if I keep walking -then I am stuck.  Result: I break my resolution before the first week has passed.

If however, I intend to keep to a keto based diet and walk every day in January, I give myself the option to take a days break if I need.  If I am invited to a friends birthday and socialising means I may stray a little from the diet and that is OK.  It is OK because through the power of intention I can start again guilt free.

The power of intention enables us to be kind to yourself while also urging us on to success in our goal.  The key to the power of intention is the understanding that ‘shit’ happens and it does not matter, no stress just start over.  You can get back on track the next day, or week if you need to.

So, if in 2019 you have a resolution and are struggling for whatever reason, simply change it for ‘Intention’ allow yourself the opportunity to correct your course and get back on track.

I sincerely hope you have a great 2019 and achieve all that you wish to achieve.

I hope you found this article helpful

Nga mihi

Tony C
Personal Coach / Digital Marketing Specialist
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The 5 essential ingredients for success

Kia ora Koutou,

Throughout my life, I have been successful in many ways.  I have genuinely succeeded in most things I put my heart and soul into.

At a young age, I was a very happy kid and I was a good sportsman and during my school years fell in love with cross country running (I know, what was I thinking?), but I truly did.  In standard three (year 5) the school had its annual cross country races and to my complete surprise, I managed to come in 2nd place, to my schoolmate Richard Barlow. During that year I would try my hardest to beat him but I would suffer from stitch and could never seem to take him albeit he would only beat me by a few metres in the end.

I was playing football and my grandad would travel 40 kilometres to pick me up and take me to my games. During our conversation on the way to football, grandad asked me how school was going and I told him about my stitch.  he smiled and simply said, “Start singing while you run” and “train harder”.

The following week I did what grandad had told me.  I was pretty fit anyway but I started to run more and during my runs, I would sing “Waltzing Matilda” a song my grandparents taught me, which seem to work.  Singing helps you to regulate your breathing and it’s a great way to prevent stitch.

The next week I beat Richard by a decent margin.  I went through Plimmerton School as a champion at cross country and even in the first form (year 7), I was fastest in the school being able to beat all the kids in the year above.  At the regional competition, I run for the school as a senior during both my First and Second forms (year 7 & 8) and won my races by a few hundred metres each time.

The reason I was so good was pretty simple, I loved what I did, I received great advice, I trained well, I was lucky to be in a school that encouraged kids to run cross country and I had some competition to keep me sharp, I was a very happy kid.

This is very similar to the Five step formula, I and many other coaches will tell you, to be successful in life.

 #1: Do what you love
You spend a lot of time at work, it is so important you do what you love or over 50% of it is wasted.

 

#2: Just do it
As Nike tells us to. Find a way to follow your dreams, the fact you are following your own plan will make you happier even though you may need to work for someone else or work towards the career you will love. Don’t wait for the stars to align, they only align when they know from your actions what you want to do.  Make it clear to them and they will respond in kind.

A little bit of planning is good, but that’s all you need.  Passion and positive actions will do the rest.

 

#3: Surround yourself with success-minded people
One of the reasons I set up my business networking groups in the area I live is to ensure I am working with like-minded people.  When you are surrounded by successful people you can learn from each other and gain the knowledge you need faster than you can by yourself.  

Celebrated success expert Jim Rohn, who is no longer with us, used to talk about something he called the Law of Averages – average the income of the five people you hang out with the most, and that’s what your income is likely going to be.

This is because the way that people tend to think is contagious.

Ensure you spend regular time with people who are positive and looking to achieve BIG dreams, they support you and your dreams, do this and your clients and your business or career will benefit!

#4: Don’t stop growing
Don’t settle for what you have in life.  Demand more of yourself think of ways you can not only continue to grow yourself but help those positive people around you.  Learn and help others, If we all did this, the world would be a much better place.

#5: Smile
People love to deal with happy people.  Whenever you are feeling a little lost, take a good look at yourself and start working on getting your smile back.  Make the changes you need in your life to bring back the happy you.

 

My biggest success is my family, they not only make me proud to be their dad they also help me smile when times get tough.  I am very grateful to have been blessed with such a wonderful whanau.

 

 

Arohanui

 

Tony C
Personal Coach
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Yes, I want to be a digital marketing expert.

Kia ora, People, my name is Tony Cutting and I am looking to create New Zealand’s greatest team of Digital Marketing specialists.  If you are already into digital marketing this maybe you chance to find a collaborator, if you are just thinking about digital marketing this will be a great opportunity for you to build your own business while also working with a team of like-minded people.

So, I am already a successful digital marketer and personal coach who loves to help people chase their dreams.  If you want to check I am the real deal the best thing is to visit my local group www.kapitinow.co.nz

Kapiti Now is a project in my local area I started about four years ago.  I now generate a small income from this project which is great. The main benefit of this project was it has helped me grow my brand locally and learn how to make things work.

On the personal front, I am 54 years young and have four beautiful children who are the centre of my world and at times my greatest teachers.  I started my commitment to this journey after surviving a brain operation at 50 which woke me up to the fact I wanted to really enjoy the rest of my life, doing mahi (work) that meant something and spending time with people who want to succeed and do something with their lives. So during the three years (yes three years) of recovery I have spent my time building my local project, reading as much as I could, listening to audio books, learning how to great photos and video on my iPhone and designing my future.

My Iwi, Ngati Toa Rangatira. I was raised at Hongoeka Marae in the beautiful seaside town of Plimmerton about half an hours drive from Wellington.  I am now based on the Kapiti Coast which is only another 30 minutes up the road from my spiritual home of Hongoeka.

I have several projects that generate an income the biggest being www.jobcafe.co.nz which is used to help organisations ensure their jobs are marketed to the people they are targeting.  JobCafe also markets people who are growing a personal business or looking for a job.  This pays me most days and is now allowing me to put my energy into this project “Creating New Zealand’s greatest team of Digital Marketing specialists”.

If you are new to Digital marketing and want to learn and possibly create your own business or if you already have a business and want to grow it then this blog will help provide insights into me and into what digital marketing is all about and how to become an expert.

Over the next three months, I will be publishing my day to day actions, providing some coaching, insights, observations and showing people what I do, and how I allocate my time to maximise what I want to achieve.

During this time if you like what I am doing and want to become a digital marketer you can contact me via the Facebook page I have set up for this project and I will go over how we can work together and help each other build great digital businesses. The partners I am looking for, live in an area they love and want to promote it while also generating an income.  They will also want to build a brand that enables them to generate income from many streams around the world.

So whether you are 18 or 63 this is an opportunity to work with a coach who can help you become great at Digital Marketing

So step one is – like & follow my Facebook page set up for this project
https://www.facebook.com/tonycuttingdigital/

and if your serious about building your business share this page with your friends and family and be bold enough to tell them this is what you are doing.

Have a great day – Nga mihi

 

Tony C

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How do I motivate myself?

Self-motivation is a state of mind – a certain level of consciousness when reached, will take your life to another level. I promise.

International studies have shown that those who are self-motivated are seen to be the most successful, regardless of their background, financial position, education or location.   More importantly they are the people who when they say ‘I am great’ really mean it.

Why?
Because  they have developed that personal drive and fortitude to push themselves to success in life.  Well actually they have also decided it is time to be the best they can be.

Whether you are aware of it or not, every self-motivating thought you have can lead to empowering habits which will improve your life substantially. You can have complete control over your own fate by learning how to choose the way you think and then direct that energy consciously.

So, what are the tools to transform your life and become more self-motivated?

Food choices.  Learning to make sensible healthy food choices helps you develop self confidence and fuel your body, mind and spirit.  For me this means cutting out most sugars, keeping my carbs to a minimum, eating protein (yes including cheese) drinking a load of water each day and reducing my red meat down to once per week (most of the time).

Walking (or regular exercise).  I like to champion walking, not only is it a great fat burning exercise for those of us who need this but it allows you to think, take in what is around you.  Ideally walking somewhere in nature is the best tonic.  Currently I am losing weight so try to walk for a minimum of an hour.  MAybe I will cut this back to 40 minutes per day when I hit my goal weight or maybe I want.  You see, luckily I enjoy walking. (Something I had to tell myself at the start) but now it has become a habit I can say I really enjoy my walks.

Meditation. The very best catalyst for self-motivation, meditation helps you erase fears, clear your mind and tap into your deeper hidden wisdom and creative insights.  At the moment I am using the ‘Calm’ app to try some different meditations.  If you have never mediated I personally recommend you try this – ten minutes per day only.

Having been in a very dark place recovering from some very serious major surgery I can attest that the moment I started to use the tools above to restart my life, my mindset and motivation started to change for the better.  For me it was important to use all three tools together as they compliment each other.

I am not a fan of extreme diets, or using extreme physical events as your motivation to get fit, these work only for a short time.  Keep it simple and engage your common sense.

For me this is the foundation which you can then build on to create what ever life you want.

Hope you find this helpful – have a great day.

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Being Successful

For a moment lets think of what success really is.  It is not about winning or losing or attaining objects that we think may or may not represent success.  To first understand what success really is we need to take away what other people think success is and what they think success for you is.

It is totally about what you define as success for you.   For me success is happiness.  I know many people will disagree but I tell you now that the person who is happy every day of their life and is grateful for what they have is the most successful person in the room.

In its purest form success is the achievement of what you would love in your life.  The road to success is simply making steps towards attaining these goals.  In fact, the moment you get up in the morning and make progress towards your desired goals this action makes you a successful person.

Regardless of what you learn (mistakes included) the fact you are taking action is a very positive thing – in my mind, this is also Success, in fact maybe this is what success is really all about.

Yes, achievements that give you a great high like winning the trophy or being recognised with a reward at work by your peers is great, but true success is more constant than those moments others see us in.

The simple act of writing will help you achieve success, use this skill to set a course you can follow and strive to achieve (which includes wins and losses) enables your daily success. As you write you will start to notice more things about you, your relationships, and environment.  The truly successful will not let these determine what success for them is, however they will use this understanding to learn and design the course they wish to follow. I use mindmaps and you may find these helpful too.

I use mindmaps to help set my personal course and you may find these helpful too.

Maslow’s theory I feel is a great indicator for what success for all of us might be.

Success Step 1 – Basic Needs (Physiological Needs – Food, Water, Warmth & Rest) along with (Safety – Security & Safety)

Success Step 2 – Psychological Needs (Belongingness and Love needs – intimate relationships and friends) along with (Esteem needs – prestige and feeling of accomplishment)

Success Step 3 – Self-Fulfillment needs (Self-actualisation – achieving one’s full potential including creative activities).

My only proviso is that for Success Step 3 achieving your full potential is the goal you will always have to chase, until your final day.

I would also hope that you look at what ‘Values’ are important to you and when you find values that you would like to strive to live by you use these to guide you through life.  Without values, again written down and passionately followed you may never truly set the right course.

Finally – Become successful by building a great life, without hurting or affecting others whether it is in humble surroundings or something more, with a smile in your heart pursuing exactly what YOU want while loving what you have – and you my friend are among the most successful people on the planet.

 

 

 

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Personal development on a budget #3

The next book I recommend you invest in if you are truly interested in developing your personal skills – The Tipping Point by Malcolm Gladwell.

How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference …

Malcolm has written a great guide on ‘how little things can make a big difference’.  In this book, you understand more about the degrees of separation and learn that there is a process that at first can feel quite hard but with consistency, persistence, a focus on quality, and by engaging your mind you will reach that point where life takes off and your hard work pays off.

Turn your ideas into action and let ‘The Tipping Point’ guide you to success.

 

The Tipping Point

 

This book can help transform your thinking and push you in the right direction.

This is one of my favourite business books, I personally recommend it to everyone who wants to build a business or a better life.  I have experienced the ‘magical moment’ when an idea took off like wildfire, and still enjoy using that experience to motivate myself to create more.

Tony Cutting – Coach
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Becoming World Class – 10,000 Hours?

The Christmas / New Year period is a great time to relax and reflect especially here in New Zealand where most of the country (other than the hospitality, farming and retail industries) take a well-earned collective rest.  It is also the time I recharge my batteries and really think about my personal plan and what activity I will be focusing on during the next year.

As a Coach, I have always been interested in what it takes to be “World Class” and I have decided that in 2017 I am going to dig deeper and try to qualify my own thinking.

I invite you, if you are interested in this subject to reach out and contact me with your own thoughts, I am more than happy to have others contribute to this research, or maybe you are just happy taking part in exploring what the magic formula really is.

I do have some very good connections to a number of real-life world class sports people, but my interest extends far beyond sports to all places people dream to achieve.

Malcolm Gladwell (author – The Tipping Point, What the Dog Saw, David and Goliath etc) came to the conclusion based on his research that it takes 10,000 hours to become ‘world class’ in your field of choice.

Anders Ericsson (Professor of Psychology, Florida State University) concluded that “many characteristics once believed to reflect innate talent are actually the result of intense practice extended for a minimum of 10 years”.

This is what I believe as of today.
As a Coach, I feel that there is much merit in championing the 10,000 hours theory as a part of the formula, especially for youth.  However, I would also add that without the right motivation on behalf of the actual person striving to become world class reaching 10,000 hours may not be achievable.  My stomach tells me it may take adults longer, as they also have to battle patterns of thought and habits that they need to change.

NB: I have been in the Recruitment and Talent Management industry for over 25 years and Motivation is well known globally for being the key to employing the right people for a job.

Before you go anywhere I think you need to have an ounce of talent to work from, it maybe only small but this combined with the right motivation in place I believe is your starting point.

Also, simply just practising a thing will not necessarily make you world class. I fully believe each and every one of us needs a guide or Coach with the skills to take you the next level.  You will also need to upgrade or change your Coach as you reach the full potential with that individual Coach, and continue to develop your own self-management and coaching skills throughout this journey.   Great Coaches are also developing themselves constantly but from my own humble experience in sports, and a career in talent management that extends well beyond the 10,000 hours, believe that as a Coach it is likely a change will be needed when growth slows and or progress is not being made.

So, not only does the individual need to have an ounce of talent, a burning motivation and the determination to work hard to become world class, so does the people supporting and nurturing that talent.

I also believe in the phrase used by our World champion team here in New Zealand “Better people, make Better All Blacks – Sir Graeme Henry” who in the past fifteen years had spent most of this time ranked at number one in the world for their sport.  However, until Sir Graeme took the helm we “choked” at the final stages in world cups for a period of twenty years.

Possibly also upgrade this phrase to “Great people, make great champions”  Richie McCaw arguably New Zealand’s greatest All Black Captain never wanted to be an All Black, from an early age he wanted to be a “Great All Black” and he achieved that dream.

This has brought me to the thinking that to be truly world-class do you also need to develop as a great all round person?  I think for longevity sake this would not be a bad course to set your thinking on.

Taking Richie’s thoughts into account it also adds a major factor “It has to be the person’s dream” not Mum or Dads dream.  If Mum or Dad introduce one of their kids to something they then fall in love with and the kid dreams of becoming world class then you have the precious flicker take can be developed into something further.  Nurtured well, given the right positive coaching and hard work across all facets of the person’s being and well-being (life / work balance) a willingness to work a minimum of 10,000 hours of quality training (not just doing time) then, just then, you may have the formula to become a World Champion at whatever it is you love to do.

Please feel free to comment or email me with your thoughts.  This article is just the beginning I am keen to hear your views. 

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Have a wonderful 2017

As we launch into a New Year, I genuinely wish everyone to have a happy and healthy 2017.  I wonder if we all actually felt this way what the world would look like?

My year starts as it has for the last few years with my review of my personal plan.  I am actually well down the track as I am so excited about making 2017 absolutely wonderful I started my review early in December. The reality is we have a choice, we can either make it a great New Year or we can choose to “See what happens” and take that great big risk.

I like many Coaches in the world have chosen to a great year, so how do we do it?

In the wise words of Mary Morrissey, “the world is happening through us, not to us”

My interpretation of this is we all have the power to control what we do, who we choose to be with and what we plan to do.  Given just these simple facts we have all we need to design, plan and implement a wonderful New Year.

Mine starts with that personal long term plan based on what I want my life to look like, well not just want, more like desire, love and dream to have.  Then I simply go through the processes I have learnt over the past 53 years on this planet and start mind mapping my plan.  I then break this plan down into the areas I need to work on and will use this plan every morning to design my day, knowing that if I work my plan every day, not only am I already living the life I would love to live but I am also making it happen.

That is the basic framework.  Only you can fill in the details and if you need someone to help you move on I suggest you consider finding a Coach that you can work with.  I am extremely lucky as I work with a mastermind group of Coaches here in New Zealand, as well as work with my own Coach.

Every person needs a Coach, someone to guide them and keep them on their desired track.  You can try and “go it alone” but ask this question of yourself, how quickly can I achieve my goals alone?  Would I get there faster with someone who is dedicated to helping me?

Happy New Year everyone – choose to make this year a great one!

 

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Dreaming – Goal Setting (Stage One)

What is Goal Setting?

Goal setting is a subject that alters people’s lives forever. Once you master the skill of goal setting you can achieve almost anything you want to. The following information and exercise/s will help you on the path to understanding what goal setting is and how to use it to successfully achieve your dreams.

After this exercise, you will have the basic skills to design your own future.

“A life best lived is a life by design” – Jim Rohn
“ Live a Life you would LOVE to live” – Mary Morrissey

We start the process by getting you to use your imagination. What is the life you dream to live?

Tapping this resource of imagination is focused on your future, thinking about the rest of your day, tomorrow and what your life will look like when the time comes for reflection on what you have achieved.

Dreams
Dreams are like magnets – they pull. The stronger your dreams are, the more purposeful they are, the bigger they are the stronger they pull.

They pull you to take the actions necessary to achieve these dreams.

Dreams written down are called “Goals”.

Powerful Goals
Powerful Goals have three main components;

1. They must be inspiring
2. They must be believable
3. They must be goals you can act on

NB: You do not have to know how you will get there. Part of the adventure of life is the journey, the discovery and learning. If you already know how to get there, then your dream maybe too small, dream big!

Getting Started -Your Future ‘Mindmap’

To get started I want you to paint the picture of what your life would look like when you come to your final days.  You want no regrets and you want to live the life you designed.  This is the starting point for your personal goal setting.

Below is an example of my very own mind map.  Yours may look very different and that is cool with me.

tc-mind-map

This top level map describes what I want to achieve in my life.  It starts with the centre of my universe – my family (whanau).  For me, at age 53 this is my major driving force.  However, it also includes the things I want to personally achieve.

At this level, it lacks detail but does provide the guide for me to follow as I dive deeper into each of these top level goals.  It also is the starting point for me to consider the things I really want to achieve in life.

I find it very powerful to see my plan on one piece of paper like this it helps me focus while I work on the individual goals and action steps I need to take to achieve my dreams.

 

Exercise 1 – Build your own Mindmap

Step 1. It starts with you evaluating and reflecting on where you are right now and where you want to be in the future. In the case of this Mindmap we want you to take that future right to the end of your life. Spend some time (alone) reflecting on what you would like your friends and family to be saying about you during your first day on earth. What is it you achieved with your life? How satisfied will you be? What is it that made your life what you wanted it to be? What were you about?

Then start putting pen to paper or if you would rather find magazines or print images from google to create your own personal image board.

At this stage, we are working at a very high level not too worried about the how but definitely thinking about the WHY.

You are more likely going to need to set aside time on a regular basis the work on this top level map and over time it will become clearer on what you really want it to look like. All this means is the initial map may change as you further reflect and evaluate what you want. It is important to get started and let momentum help the process evolve.

Step 2. What are your dreams and goals (future only) What do you want to achieve? What values do you want to live by? What sort of person do you want to be known as? What do you want – not what someone else wants you to be. These should come from your heart and soul. They are unique to you and come from who you were created to be and gifted to become.

Exercise 2 – SMART GOALS

Once we have drafted our mind map we want to start applying the rules of goal setting to help us succeed. The next stage is to evaluate each goal using the SMART system. Take each goal and create a heading on a new piece of paper. You should have separate sheets for each goal.

We are now going to start working on defining each goal.

SMART means Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time- Sensitive.

Specific – Don’t be vague. Exactly what do you want?

Measurable – Quantify your goal. How will you know if you’ve achieved it or not?

Attainable – Be honest with yourself about what you can reasonably accomplish at this point in your life while taking into consideration your current situation.  This is the stage where you might set a task to learn more about how you are going to attain this goal e.g. “signup with a personal trainer, to learn more about getting fit” may lead to you setting new goals after you have learned from this trainer.

Realistic – It’s got to be achievable, real and practical.

Live a Healthy and Happy Life (TC Short Example)
I will retain my weight at 80kgs, each healthy food’s each day by planning out my meals and shopping on a regular basis to ensure I have healthy food to eat. I will weigh myself each week to ensure I maintain this weight or take necessary actions. (Weekly Action – plan out my meals and buy food for the week). (Weigh in Day – Friday)

I will walk a minimum of 30 minutes every day and during this time I will smile and be thankful for all I have in my life, including my wonderful family and friends. (Record distance and time in Journal).

I spend 20 minutes every day by myself meditating. I will go to sleep before 10 pm each night and get 6-8 hours’ sleep before I start the next day.

In the Summer of 2017/18, I will start to Surf again.

I will get regular health checks and continual learn new ways of being happy and healthy.  (further Action – set appts in my diary).

I will subscribe to and read about how to improve my health and start to help others around me so we live a healthy life together.  (Further Action, research books to read).

COMPLETE THIS EXERCISE FOR ALL OF YOUR GOALS.

NB: Part of your journey might be discovering the answers, so you may not be able to fill in all the blanks yet, you may create new blanks to fill in as you discover, learn and grow. Is this not what life is all about?

Once you have these Goals written down then you hold yourself accountable.  You check them weekly, monthly, and annually.  Each day you action your daily plan by writing down your goals for the day, starting the planning session by asking yourself this simple question.

“What am I doing today, to move me closer to my dream?”

 

 

 

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Be happy, learn to say ‘NO’.

Now some people may be horrified when they read the title of this article but the reality is most of us struggle to say ‘No’ and the cost is usually our time or money and our ability to achieve what we want to in life. Let’s face it we were all given the gift of life and if there is a plan for us surely it is the one we should be designing for ourselves. Yet we compromise that plan because we struggle to say that little word.

It could be that we believe that saying no is uncaring, even selfish, and we may have a fear of letting other people down. On top of this may be a fear of being disliked, criticised, or risking a friendship. The reality is, it is impossible to please everyone, so we should prioritise and understand who are the most important people in our lives (and especially include ourselves in those plans).

Now here’s an completely normal example. We are all allowed to be happy every day and the only thing that stops us being happy is the choices we make. One of those choices is what we are going to be doing with our time. If we assume we are going to give eight hours to our career (whether that be your business or employer) in exchange for the cash we need to live our lives, and we should be using at least eight hours for rest, we put aside 30-60 minutes for exercise, an hour in the morning preparing ourselves for work (having breakfast), 30-60 minutes for lunch (where we make catch up with friends or squeeze our exercise in) that leaves us with around five of six hours a day doing the things we want to do. This means during the normal working week we have around five to six hours to concentrate on the activities for our own benefit. These maybe further education, entertainment or doing the activities that we enjoy.

If you have children (and I have four) most of this time will be spent with them, and it should be. There is nothing wrong with that. In the weekend, time can quickly be filled up with laundry, kid’s sports, house and garden maintenance and simply recharging the battery (sleeping in etc.) helping friends out or visiting relatives.

Suddenly when you look back at the week at all these “activities” you have only a few hours per week or less for yourself? Unless of course you start saying no.

Saying no actually starts with you deciding to design the life you would love and then ensuring you prioritise time for yourself. When it comes to designing, I mean making a real plan written down, with actions and everything a plan designed for a life you love to live that will make you happy every day. Now if it ends up looking like the life example described above and that truly makes you happy all well and good, however in most cases once we do this our plan looks very different.

Another reality is you are most likely going to get more respect when you say no.
No doubt, you will need to compromise but a rule I live by these days is every day I am doing something that helps me achieve the life I love to have. Every day my plan is to be happy and no one gets to take the time I have put aside for that. This may only be an hour per day but even then, it means I have had to learn to say no.

What would you achieve if you gave yourself seven hours’ personal time per week?

My goal over the next few years is to increase my personal time, increase my ‘no’s and to teach my children to do the same. Although funny enough they are pretty good at this already – maybe a lesson right there.

If I truly want them to be successful and have the life they would love to have is this not the right approach?

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